It’s days like these that constantly make me rethink my divorce considerations. They are the reason I think we could be okay (with a lot of work). Getting home from work to find that everyone is in a pretty good mood is unfortunately more rare than it should be, but when it happens it’s wonderful.
He’s been doing laundry all day, the kitchen isn’t trashed, and we happily worked together to get the yard cleaned up and mowed. Now he’s cooking pasta for dinner and the kids are being (mostly) well behaved. Nice relaxing nights like this are what I live for. They are a perfect picture of the family life I dreamed of when I decided that being a wife and mom was my future.
Now I know things can’t always be picture perfect. I know some days are going to be harder than others. I’ve been home with the kids all day by myself before too, I know it’s not always easy. The thing is regardless of how hard it is you should always try for the best. The effort unfortunately isn’t always there.
I feel wrong even writing anything bad right now, that’s how nice things are when everything’s going well. But the truth is that there’s just a high percentage of nights that go differently. Where I get home from work and he’s already left to go hang with friends or he’s about to leave. I’m tired from being at work for the past nine or ten hours, and he’s out the door leaving me to take care of every responsibility for the night, in addition to cleaning up after the messes they’ve made all day. And sometimes this’ll happen several days in a row until I feel like I’m about to snap with anger and frustration.
When I confront him and try to express my feelings on the situation he’ll get defensive and mean. He’ll say ugly things and it just won’t get anywhere productive.
Nothing’s wrong with going and hanging out with friends, having some guy time is important, definitely. But if you haven’t taken care of your responsibilities to your family first, then it becomes unfair in my opinion.
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